If you grew up in the ’90s, your best friend was your ride-or-die. You’d spend hours on the phone, swap secrets about your parents, and plan matching outfits like it was a full-time gig. Fast forward to today — while life looks a little different, the heart of that friendship hasn’t changed. We’re still up late talking, spilling the tea, and somehow showing up in the same outfit without meaning to.

The biggest difference? We’re grown now, and wine has replaced juice boxes. Best friends feel like the siblings we never had — or the ones we clashed with. Sure, siblings might’ve stolen your toys or embarrassed you in public, but your BFF was always the one making prank calls with you and holding your hand through every heartbreak.

Whether in the ’90s or today, our best friends have shaped who we are. In the ’90s, fights with your BFF were dramatic—like when she let your digital pet die while you were on vacation. Today, adult fights are more subtle, with passive-aggressive Facebook comments and ignored Instagram likes. Making up in the ’90s meant passing heartfelt notes in class, while today, it’s all about overpriced Starbucks drinks and selfies.

Friday nights in the ’90s were spent at the mall or sneaking into R-rated movies. Now, it’s all about Netflix and wine. And while ’90s wingwoman duties involved staging run-ins during science class, today’s BFFs help you stalk potential crushes on Facebook for hours. Whether you were pretending to be the Spice Girls in the ’90s or perfecting the Single Ladies dance today, one thing is clear: BFFs are forever, no matter how much times change.