Tomi Lahren first burst onto the national scene thanks to her fiery conservative monologues known as “Final Thoughts” on The Blaze, quickly becoming one of the most recognizable right-wing commentators on television. With her signature blonde hair, sharp rhetoric, and unapologetic political stance, she built a massive following — and just as many critics. Over the years, her outspoken views have often blurred the lines between her professional and personal life, leading to a string of public relationships, controversies, and heartbreaks before she finally found lasting love with her husband, former MLB player J.P. Arencibia.
Long before settling down, however, Lahren’s dating life was anything but stable. During an interview on The Skinny Confidential Him & Her podcast in June 2024, she spoke candidly about her difficult dating history and how her political fame often complicated things. “I’ve dated celebrities in the past who didn’t want people to know we were together because there would be a substantial amount of backlash,” she admitted. Lahren didn’t name names but revealed that she sometimes offered to keep those relationships secret to protect her partners from public criticism. Her experiences, she said, were a reminder that being a polarizing public figure can make romance “a minefield.”
Her first major relationship to capture media attention was with Navy SEAL Jerad Christian in 2015. At the time, Lahren was only 22 and hosting On Point with Tomi Lahren on One America News Network. That July, following a tragic shooting in Chattanooga that left five U.S. servicemen dead, she delivered a passionate on-air monologue criticizing the Obama administration’s handling of terrorism. The segment went viral almost instantly, racking up millions of views on YouTube. A source later told the Daily Mail that her impassioned defense of the military was partly inspired by Christian, who was serving at the time. “Tomi believes in him and what he and all our troops are doing for the country,” the insider said, calling Christian her “hero.” Though their relationship eventually ended, it clearly left a lasting impression on her career — one that cemented her image as an outspoken defender of the military and conservative values.
In 2016, not long after her breakup with Christian, Lahren was spotted spending time with The Bachelorette alum Chase McNary. Rumors began when McNary shared a now-deleted Instagram photo featuring the two looking cozy among friends, captioned with the phrase “Let’s make America great together” and the hashtag #MAGA. Their shared conservative leanings seemed to bring them together, but their relationship fizzled out almost as quickly as it began. In January 2017, McNary confirmed to Us Weekly that they had split after only a few weeks. “We were talking for about two weeks, but we weren’t in the same place, so we went our separate ways,” he explained, adding, “I have nothing bad to say about her. She’s a great girl.”
A few years later, in 2018, Lahren began dating NFL advisor Brandon Fricke. Their romance blossomed quickly, and by June 2019, Fricke had proposed during a trip to New York City. At the time, both shared their excitement on social media, gushing about their future together. “She said yes!” Fricke wrote on Instagram, while Lahren added, “I guess you’re stuck with me.” But their engagement wouldn’t last. By early 2020, the couple had split. According to the Daily Mail, the separation was amicable, with a source saying, “Tomi felt she wasn’t ready to settle down and made her feelings known.” Lahren later confirmed to People magazine that “it just wasn’t in the cards.” Despite the breakup, the two reportedly remained on friendly terms and continued to support each other’s careers.
Around the same time, Lahren was briefly linked to former NFL quarterback Jay Cutler. In September 2020, the pair were spotted together in Nashville, reportedly sharing drinks and laughing the night away. One insider told E! News that they were “passing a bottle of tequila back and forth and taking shots together.” While some claimed they went home together, others insisted the outing was purely platonic. Regardless of the truth, the rumor quickly went viral, with fans flooding social media with jokes. One user wrote, “It makes sense that Jay Cutler is dating Tomi Lahren because 95% of his passes wound up going far right.” Both Lahren and Cutler later denied the dating rumors — she quipped on X (formerly Twitter), “I love it when the internet tells me who I’m dating. Good one,” while Cutler posted a photo of himself with a cow, captioned, “Only lady in my life.”
Finally, in early 2021, Lahren met the man who would become her husband — retired MLB catcher J.P. Arencibia. The two quickly fell in love, bonding over shared values and their mutual love of sports. In March 2021, Arencibia made their relationship public with a heartfelt Instagram post featuring a carved tree with their initials. “You are an amazing woman who pushes me to be better every day,” he wrote. “I am so proud of you and thankful to call you mine.” Just six months later, in September, they were engaged, with Lahren writing, “Found my best friend and never letting him go. I love you more than anyone has ever loved anything.”
The couple tied the knot in October 2022 in a private ceremony surrounded by close family and friends. Sharing photos from the celebration, Lahren wrote, “The best night of our lives surrounded by the BEST and most FUN people on the planet. We love you. We love love.” After years of romantic missteps, public scrutiny, and heartbreak, Tomi Lahren finally found the stability she had been searching for. Her love story with Arencibia marks a new chapter — one that’s grounded not in politics or controversy, but in genuine companionship.
While her political opinions continue to spark debates, Lahren’s journey through love and loss shows a more vulnerable side of the fiery commentator. From secret flings and broken engagements to a public fairytale ending, her road to marriage has been messy, dramatic, and, in true Tomi Lahren fashion, impossible to ignore.
