For many people, the story hits a nerve because weddings are meant to make guests feel welcome, not ranked. Most of us accept that gifts help cover costs, but turning generosity into a paywall for basic respect feels cruel. It quietly tells people with less money that their presence is worth less, even on a day supposedly about love and community.
At the same time, it exposes how expensive and pressured modern weddings have become. Between venue fees, expectations for lavish meals, and social media perfection, some couples start to see guests as walking wallets instead of witnesses to a promise. The backlash to this “tiered menu” is really a plea for something simpler: invite people you love, feed them what you can afford, and let the memory be about laughter, not receipts.