Obama Reflects on Marriage and “Deficit” with Michelle
Barack Obama recently opened up about his marriage to Michelle Obama, offering a rare insight into their relationship. He admitted that he’s still working to make up for lost time, especially after years in the public eye.
Candid Confession at Hamilton College
During an event at Hamilton College in New York on April 4, Obama spoke about various topics, including gun laws and Donald Trump’s tariffs. However, his most discussed moment came when he addressed his marriage.
“I was in a deep deficit with my wife,” Obama shared with College President Steven Tepper. “So, I’ve been trying to dig myself out by doing fun things occasionally.”
Marriage Strains and Rumors
The Obamas have been married since 1992 and spent eight years in the White House. Obama has acknowledged that these years put a strain on their marriage. Over time, rumors about tension and even divorce have surfaced, though the couple has never confirmed them.

Michelle’s Perspective
Michelle Obama has also been open about their relationship struggles. On her podcast, she humorously discussed Barack’s laid-back approach to time. “He had to adjust to what ‘on time’ was for me,” she said, joking about his Hawaiian roots and “island time.”
She recalled how Barack would often start getting ready right when they were supposed to leave. “At 3 p.m., he’d still be looking for his glasses!” she laughed.
Time Issues Beyond Marriage
Despite early struggles with punctuality, Michelle acknowledged that Barack has improved over their 30-year marriage. She joked that their daughters, Malia and Sasha, now arrive early whenever they meet her.
Even as president, Obama struggled with time. In 2014, The Washington Post reported that he had accumulated over 35 hours of delays during scheduled public events.
Obama’s Focus Now
While Obama is currently working on the second volume of his memoirs, it’s clear he’s prioritizing something even more personal—his relationship with Michelle and staying out of the “deficit” he mentioned.